Trust: Important Factor to Consider in Marriage Life.:
Marriages: we all know a lot about the concepts, principles, ways and manners that how we can make our married life smooth and happy. We all have must read and heard about the rules here and there, but what we going to discuss today is about the “Trust” factor. Trust is probably the most important ingredient in building a relationship between husband and wife.
Trust is something that can be cultivated and nurtured if you will follow the guidelines below.
Constantly work to improve your communication skills. Develop the skill of being a good listener, which is one of the hardest skills to develop. Being a good listener means you don't interrupt your spouse. This requires great discipline and respect. Learn to ask, "Are you finished?" Always make sure you've fully understood what the other person has said.
Take responsibility to express your needs and express them clearly and assertively. When a person feels he or she cannot express their needs to the other person, then this leads to a break down in trust. We often don't express our needs for two reasons. Either we are afraid of rejection or we are afraid of feeling ashamed for having such needs. When a couple can express and meet each others needs consistently this is one of the most powerful ways to build trust in a relationship.
A key tool to use here is the "5 to 1 rule." This means that before you say anything negative to your spouse, you must have expressed at least five positive things. Only then, are you allowed to say something negative or critical.
Solve your Issues as soon as possible.
This requires that a husband and wife develop good problem solving skills.